Posts Tagged ‘school’

This Family HAS to Understand Colors

January 1st, 2009

“Hi George: We’re looking forward to being with you in Tulsa next week.  I thought I’d write a note about my four children, each a different color. So meet my family:

Georgia is Blue very involved with her church youth group, has a hard time saying “no” when asked to do something for them, to the point that she’s a little taken advantage of, loves children and just wants to be with them, especially helpful around the house right before company comes. She feels the pain of her friends when they’re having a hard time and just needs to be with them. She makes friends with her teachers and until she feels a friendship type bond with them, she has a very hard time being comfortable in their classroom. She often reaches out to make friends or spend time with people who aren’t the most outgoing.

My Green son Calvin had last years’ Christmas list as a spreadsheet, with rows for each type item he wanted and then the columns were labeled as: most wanted, would be nice, good and ok. In each column where the specific item was listed, he also included where it could be purchased and how much it cost – he found the least expensive place for each item online. Then he went over the spreadsheet with me for a long time. He is planning his high school courses based on what majors he might want in college, which are based upon a solid, well paying job that he’d enjoy. He likes to understand topics and subjects and have lengthy conversations about things. When he was three years old he learned to ride a bike with no training wheels and practiced for days falling off, so he’d completely know how to control a fall so he wouldn’t get hurt.

Martin, my Orange son wants to have fun! He’s not aware of peer pressure in middle school and loves having a good time with people. Deadlines for report? Oh, that’s when you both start and complete it. Likes to play games and always did – even when he was three years old he didn’t care if he won or lost a game, he just wanted to play a game. He’s very sweet and huggy – a bit of blue shining through. When he was a baby we used to call him “Mr. Happy.” He is considered gifted at school in the area of Language Arts.

My daughter Camille is so Gold and so NOT Orange. She likes dependable schedules and to know what’s going to happen when. If I try to change the routine, it really throws her for a loop and can ruin her day. It can take a long time for her to be comfortable with new people and each year before the first day of school, she wants to know what class she’s in, needs to meet the teacher and see where she’s going to sit.  She doesn’t like change at all. She’s VERY bright and wants to always get 100% on every assignment. She takes a long time to do her writing and has a very hard time making a “rough draft,” because she wants it to be a final draft the first time she writes. She gets migraine headaches due to stress that she puts upon herself and can’t understand why anyone would ever break a rule.

My husband is Green/Blue and I’m a VERY high Orange.  It’s a fun household with much respect and appreciation for each other. M.W.

You Need to Listen For Their Colors

January 1st, 2009

Whenever you hear some radio callers on a particular subject, or read a survey or study, it’s important to stop and think of the results or feedback as coming through the filters and glasses of our very different Colors. That doesn’t make other people (or the surveys) wrong – but often sure makes their feedback or views very different from yours. Here are two examples:

A University study showed that 92% of men believe the key to increased safety in schools comes from more challenging and individualized learning environments. Yes – maybe. But that’s Greens responding. The survey was done at a University, and that’s where you find a ton of Greens!

Ask the other Colors what they may believe is the key to increased safety in school and the responses will likely be very different – as would the results of the survey:

Blue: Better relationships and improved self-esteem

Gold: Stricter rules that are enforced and metal detectors

Orange: More freedom, breaks, creativity and hands on learning

The other obvious one was a recent interview on Corus radio. Talk-show host Dave Rutherford interviewed someone who was starting a non-profit group planning to use incentives, such as cash bonuses, to teens who graduated as non-smokers. After the interview, he took some calls from listeners. See if you can’t pick the Colors of the callers from just their feedback:

  • It’s a drug like alcohol and it’s illegal for kids. Forget this plan
  • It’s about educating kids. We have to take the time to teach them to look at dangers
  • Stricter rules is the only way. Send them to boot camps like they have in Oregon
  • It’s a great idea – cash talks, very creative and it’ll motivate teens
  • It’s about spending more time with your kids. It’ll make it much less likely to get into trouble
  • Let them experiment – what’s the big deal
  • This is a total waste of money. It’s cheaper to do tax incentives

Orange Mom versus Gold Kid

September 1st, 2008

“Hi George: I checked with my daughter to make sure it was okay that I share her story and she said that it was actually kind of cool. So here it is:

My very organized fourth grade daughter’s homework comes home every Monday and is due back Friday morning. When this started, I was “helping” her organize what she would do each day by labeling tasks with color coded Post-It notes. Being rather Orange, I had her do a little vocabulary, a little math and a little reading each day throughout the week, because that seemed more fun to me.

We spent hours doing homework and at least once a week had stressed out tears and I was at a loss how to help. It was dreadful! About a week after I got home from my first Colors seminar, my daughter asked if she could color code what she wanted to do each day. I was looking for anything that would help and readily agreed.

I was surprised to see her color code her homework completely differently than I had been doing. She chose one subject to do from start to finish each day. So Monday was math, Tuesday was vocabulary, etc. What was even more amazing is that she gets her homework done in a fraction of the time it used to take and with very little stress! All I could think about was: Wow – Orange mom, Gold kid!

I cannot thank you enough for opening my eyes to her personality and how I can best respect that; when to step in and, more difficult for me, when to let her do her thing.” S. W.

A Three-Year Old and the Only Gold In the Family

October 1st, 2007

Hi George: If you remember, I’m a high Orange married to a first Color Green. Our six year old is Orange/Green and our baby, who is three, is definitely Gold! This has been pretty prominent for quite a while – it just took learning about Colors to figure it out. Every toy in Liam’s room has a place, he keeps a few toys on show (which don’t get touched until he changes them) and his desk is empty unless he’s using it. The other day started out as any other. My son has a schedule for himself that doesn’t change unless I have something that I need to get done.

The other day, I had my sister’s kids for the morning. So my son Liam and his cousin were playing in his room all morning – they usually play in his brothers room (it’s OK to mess up his room – we get to play AND my room stays neat)!

When it was time for his cousin to leave, we had some other stuff to get done so I didn’t even check to see if they needed to clean up. Usually they don’t make a big mess so I wasn’t worried. We got into the truck and my son started in on me that my truck was “filthy” (his word) because there was some road spray dried on it. So to make him happy, we went through the car wash. (As a result I forgot to do about half the things on my Orange sort-of to-do list).

That night, I walked into his room and it was as messy as his brothers! Every toy, book and crayon was on the floor. I told him his room was very messy and he’d have to clean it in the morning as I cleared a path to his bed (I probably shouldn’t have said it, I didn’t want him to feel bad about it – but it just came out).

About 20 minutes after putting him to bed – we heard what we thought was playing in his room – which isn’t like him to play after the lights go out. My husband put him back to bed, but this happened about three times before he actually went to sleep. The next morning when I went into his room, it was spotless. Everything was back in its place! A little while later my son came to me and told me that he was sorry he wasn’t sleeping last night, but it “bugged him” that his room was messy.

This happens at school also. The one activity for his playschool the other day was to cut out a paper star. Everyone in his class cut the paper into a million little pieces and went on to something else. Liam’s actually looked like a star – but he was still upset that he went off the lines. When he colors, it’s the same thing!

Of course, we don’t mess with his schedule too much, if we can avoid it. Before the last school break my husband was already on vacation and he volunteered to take the boys to school. Well I guess Daddy didn’t do things “right” because his whole day was a little off, and after that he was still quite agitated when I picked him up.

His teacher, and other people that know him, tell me he’s quite advanced for his age. He’s got a fantastic vocabulary, he watches his big brother when he’s doing his kindergarten homework and like a sponge he’s picking it all up. In school he listens, behaves and participates in class. But I think it’s because he’s so Gold that he’s different from most the other kids his age.

Since taking the Colors course, we definitely parent differently. The kids have different punishments now, and the way we interact with them has grown a lot! Melody Wilson