Posts Tagged ‘helping’

This Family HAS to Understand Colors

January 1st, 2009

“Hi George: We’re looking forward to being with you in Tulsa next week.  I thought I’d write a note about my four children, each a different color. So meet my family:

Georgia is Blue very involved with her church youth group, has a hard time saying “no” when asked to do something for them, to the point that she’s a little taken advantage of, loves children and just wants to be with them, especially helpful around the house right before company comes. She feels the pain of her friends when they’re having a hard time and just needs to be with them. She makes friends with her teachers and until she feels a friendship type bond with them, she has a very hard time being comfortable in their classroom. She often reaches out to make friends or spend time with people who aren’t the most outgoing.

My Green son Calvin had last years’ Christmas list as a spreadsheet, with rows for each type item he wanted and then the columns were labeled as: most wanted, would be nice, good and ok. In each column where the specific item was listed, he also included where it could be purchased and how much it cost – he found the least expensive place for each item online. Then he went over the spreadsheet with me for a long time. He is planning his high school courses based on what majors he might want in college, which are based upon a solid, well paying job that he’d enjoy. He likes to understand topics and subjects and have lengthy conversations about things. When he was three years old he learned to ride a bike with no training wheels and practiced for days falling off, so he’d completely know how to control a fall so he wouldn’t get hurt.

Martin, my Orange son wants to have fun! He’s not aware of peer pressure in middle school and loves having a good time with people. Deadlines for report? Oh, that’s when you both start and complete it. Likes to play games and always did – even when he was three years old he didn’t care if he won or lost a game, he just wanted to play a game. He’s very sweet and huggy – a bit of blue shining through. When he was a baby we used to call him “Mr. Happy.” He is considered gifted at school in the area of Language Arts.

My daughter Camille is so Gold and so NOT Orange. She likes dependable schedules and to know what’s going to happen when. If I try to change the routine, it really throws her for a loop and can ruin her day. It can take a long time for her to be comfortable with new people and each year before the first day of school, she wants to know what class she’s in, needs to meet the teacher and see where she’s going to sit.  She doesn’t like change at all. She’s VERY bright and wants to always get 100% on every assignment. She takes a long time to do her writing and has a very hard time making a “rough draft,” because she wants it to be a final draft the first time she writes. She gets migraine headaches due to stress that she puts upon herself and can’t understand why anyone would ever break a rule.

My husband is Green/Blue and I’m a VERY high Orange.  It’s a fun household with much respect and appreciation for each other. M.W.

Secret Santa: It’s Your Turn to Pay It Forward

November 1st, 2008

Last year, I shared the story of Larry Stewart and at this time of the year, it’s worth reading it again, as many of his friends have taken up his cause: (

When Larry Stewart died at the age of 58, he was known world-wide as Secret Santa, and someone who gave away $1.3 million anonymously in and around the Kansas City area setting an example of generosity that’s hard to match.

In the winter of 1971, Stewart worked as a door-to-door salesman when he ran out of money. He hadn’t eaten for days when he entered Dixie Diner in Tupelo, Miss. After eating his breakfast, he pretended he’d just lost his wallet. Ted Horn, the owner, reached down to the floor and picked up a $20 bill, saying: “son, you must have just dropped this.”

Steward later shared that this was like a fortune to him. Yes, the restaurant owner had helped him out secretly. But Stewart made a promise to himself that day: “Lord, if you ever put me in a position to help other people, I will.” And the Lord did – in a big way, financially and in business. Steward’s first act was just before Christmas 1979 when he ordered a burger and drink at a local drive-in. He gave the carhop $20 and told her to keep the change. The lady started to cry and just shared the words: “You have no idea what this means to me”.

To Stewart, it became addictive and felt so good he returned to the bank the next day to get more cash, and started to give it way, as well. As he shared many years later: “I see looks of hopelessness turn to looks of hope in an instant. Isn’t that what we were put here on earth for – to help one another?” For Stewart, there wasn’t a strategy, a plan or strict criteria, and all he wanted was to assure he guarded his identity. It was only last year that he went public, after his cancer diagnosis, in the hope that his story would inspire others to carry on his tradition.

I hope we do, in small ways or large, not for the tax receipt, but because it feels great. I have no idea what Color Larry Stewart was, and his story and inspiration work equally well for us all. I do know that following his example will make your day, week or month. But I’ll tell you a learned secret: It’s better when nobody knows who you are – not even the person you’re helping.

Or in the words of my favorite saying from the Choices seminar I keep talking about ( Giving Is Receiving. In life – are you a giver or a taker? Larry Stewart was a giver and he died too soon. But as the restaurant owner, Ted Horn, shared with USA Today: “The Lord needed another angel, so he called Larry home.”

I wish you, your team at work and your family a very merry Christmas.

God bless,


What We Share:

March 1st, 2008

With the different strengths and stresses of our colors, there are some definite common denominators that are shared. It is always a matter of looking for the value and the positives. Here are some of examples:

Blue & Orange: Are both very people oriented, good negotiators and problem solvers. They share a sense of optimism and see the brighter side of things. Both value being liked and recognized. Blues verbally and in meaningful personal ways – Orange through concrete rewards like money or prizes.

Orange & Green: Enjoy competition – Green with themselves or systems – Orange with anyone if they have a chance to win. Both are independent and need their space to perform. They like new ways of doing things – Greens for ingenuity and mental challenges and Orange to avoid boredom at all cost.

Gold & Blue: Are both very socially responsible and give back in time, talents or money. Golds through service clubs and organization, while Blues gravitate to causes that involve people or animals. Both relate well to others and are great caretakers. They are helpful and cooperative and excellent team players.

Green & Blue: Both tend to see the big picture first instead of the details. They are more interested in the process than the result. Both are very creative – Blue in artistic ways and Green through their talents of innovation. Blues help people, Greens help people become more efficient and grow their knowledge.

Gold & Orange: These two share a strong sense of impatience. Gold wants it done and completed so they can move on with their to-do list, Orange wants to get on with something else because this is probably getting boring. They are both task oriented, existing in the here and now, and may miss the big picture. Both enjoy productive teamwork where things actually get done instead of talked about.

This Month on TV: Rachael Ray

February 1st, 2008

High Blue Rachael Ray is the host of a number of cooking shows on the Food Network. While a new cooking show isn’t a news flash, she has become a media darling in the U.S. where there’s just such a low percentage of the population who are Blue. But the buzz is also the many media questions wondering how she always finds a way to look at the positives of every subject or how she could possibly be so cheerful, helpful and upbeat all the time.

In fact, Time magazine’s Joel Stein calls her “America’s kindergarten teacher.” In another interview, high Green Larry King definitely had that “what makes you tick” question on his face during his interview with Ray.

Of course, the anti-Ray blogs are merciless in attempting to cut her down by harping on her cutesy catch phrases and the likes. Even the Time Magazine story ended with a shot at her by wondering how many people secretly watch for the moment she’ll crack and in comparing her to a popular girl in high school who is impressively nice to everyone, but everyone secretly kind of hates her, and who’s probably a little bit phony.

During her show she actually serves the audience herself and has an incredible ability to make people feel welcome and included while her style is to chat and connect with people and not to lecture. Small wonder right now she has a waiting list of almost 20,000 people – for a 110 seat studio audience!

Even outside the studio, Ray is totally accessible to her fans, loves to hug and chooses to focus her show more around her guests and not the celebrities. There aren’t any teleprompters, earpieces or cue cards. She doesn’t even have writers on the show – just herself and a huge sense of being herself.

Thus it’s no surprise that Oprah Winfrey’s Harpo Productions is actually quarterbacking her show. In the words of Oprah Winfrey: “The most important quality a host needs to have is the ability to be themselves day after day – on camera.” And that’s what she has.”

What Does Your Color Do In A Traffic Tie-Up?

October 1st, 2007

Hi George: I was sitting in traffic the other week as my 30 Gold score was patiently waiting my turn to get past an accident. At that point, my high Green started to wonder about the personalities of the other drivers around me, and how their Colors determined what to do.

The Golds were likely in the lane furthest away from the wreck, because you’re supposed to move away from an accident, and they were in the lane they needed to be in, planning to make their exit 20 miles away. They were irritated that some people weren’t moving to the open lane, since there was a sign five miles back notifying everyone that there was an accident in the far left lane.

The Blues were probably in the next lane over so that they could help people move over away from the accident, but also in order to help people get on and off the exits. They were also in this lane so they see the wreck to make sure no one was hurt, needing help and just wondering if everyone was OK. They had already dialed 911 on their cell and were waiting to press the “send” button in case they felt that help was needed.

Perhaps the Greens were in the lane next to the accident in order to evaluate how many cars were in the wreck, how it happened and whose fault it was – all in an effort to at least learn something from this.

It’s likely that the Orange drivers were in the accident lane until they just HAVE to move over. After all, until then, it was the fastest moving lane. Of course, at the last minute they now have to change lanes immediately and start inching forward without really waiting for someone to let them into the bumper to bumper traffic. Or perhaps they would be asked to stop and help direct traffic or something important?

It sure made waiting in traffic more fun. But I also had some questions: Would an Orange just make another lane on the shoulder to short-cut the traffic, because they’re already late? Would they latch onto the next cars’ bumper to avoid letting anyone in because it would delay them an extra three seconds?

Would us Gold not let anyone in when we get close, because they should have merged way back when they knew they’d have to move into our lane?

Would a Blue be more likely to let you merge once you’ve made eye contact and (in a way) connect with them?

In this long delay, shouldn’t someone survey the high Greens as to how they could better handle these types of congestion? Isn’t that what they’re thinking about at the time? Or is it more of a focus on looking around wondering how stupid some other drivers really are?

J.W. Kansas City