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Free Yourself With the Short, Powerful Word: No

April 4th, 2017

That was the headline from Cox News Service reviewing a book called: The Book of No: 250 Ways to Say It – and Mean It and Stop People-Pleasing Forever. Well, since the entire article, and likely the whole book, is geared towards high Blues, the article caught my attention.

Yes, standing up for ourselves, setting boundaries and saying no is worthwhile, but it’s so much easier said then done. When we talk about this subject during the Colors seminar, high Blues totally agree that they get run down, put themselves last and have a real challenge making everyone happy – which always, always comes at their expense. But their agreement comes from their Green logic. That is, their head agrees, but their heart has a really hard time implementing it.

Sure the book makes it sound easy. But the author doesn’t know the heart of high Blues. There was a good line in the article that’s worth sharing: “Recognize that guilt is a waste of time and emotional energy. People aren’t thinking about you as much as you worry about what they think.” Yes, maybe that’s true – but there’s a big missing dimension: You cannot tell the heart what to do.

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