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Any Job For Any Color…But…

March 1st, 2009

At a recent seminar, a teenager shared that he wanted to become a pilot – like the movie Top Gun. Great – but there’s a big difference between a test pilot and a commercial pilot. Just like any Color can become a lawyer, but in vastly different specialties, there’s a big difference between these two types of pilots.

The purpose of a test pilot is to push the envelope until something goes wrong. Yet a commercial pilots’ main job is to worry about what could go wrong. That’s the reason they have massive checklists, fixed routines, an extensive walk-around, tons of policy manuals and time-tested, fixed procedures that are very much risk-averse. That’s a natural fit for a high Gold, and quite the opposite of an Orange test pilot whose job it is to find or create flaws and potential problems.

Yes, any Color can do any job, but if I’m boarding a flight and it’s an Orange pilot, well – let’s just say hopefully the co-pilot is high Gold… And just because someone can do a great job in their low Colors doesn’t mean it’s their passion, purpose or love. It doesn’t mean they find the job easy or a natural and comfortable fit for their personality, or that they’ll last.

As we discussed in a newsletter last year, many studies have shown that less than 20 percent of people who have a college or university degree are still in that field five years later. THAT has a lot to do with understanding their Colors BEFORE they enter college or university, before they become buried in student debt or become disillusioned and start to look for their real purpose and passion.

This Family HAS to Understand Colors

January 1st, 2009

“Hi George: We’re looking forward to being with you in Tulsa next week.  I thought I’d write a note about my four children, each a different color. So meet my family:

Georgia is Blue very involved with her church youth group, has a hard time saying “no” when asked to do something for them, to the point that she’s a little taken advantage of, loves children and just wants to be with them, especially helpful around the house right before company comes. She feels the pain of her friends when they’re having a hard time and just needs to be with them. She makes friends with her teachers and until she feels a friendship type bond with them, she has a very hard time being comfortable in their classroom. She often reaches out to make friends or spend time with people who aren’t the most outgoing.

My Green son Calvin had last years’ Christmas list as a spreadsheet, with rows for each type item he wanted and then the columns were labeled as: most wanted, would be nice, good and ok. In each column where the specific item was listed, he also included where it could be purchased and how much it cost – he found the least expensive place for each item online. Then he went over the spreadsheet with me for a long time. He is planning his high school courses based on what majors he might want in college, which are based upon a solid, well paying job that he’d enjoy. He likes to understand topics and subjects and have lengthy conversations about things. When he was three years old he learned to ride a bike with no training wheels and practiced for days falling off, so he’d completely know how to control a fall so he wouldn’t get hurt.

Martin, my Orange son wants to have fun! He’s not aware of peer pressure in middle school and loves having a good time with people. Deadlines for report? Oh, that’s when you both start and complete it. Likes to play games and always did – even when he was three years old he didn’t care if he won or lost a game, he just wanted to play a game. He’s very sweet and huggy – a bit of blue shining through. When he was a baby we used to call him “Mr. Happy.” He is considered gifted at school in the area of Language Arts.

My daughter Camille is so Gold and so NOT Orange. She likes dependable schedules and to know what’s going to happen when. If I try to change the routine, it really throws her for a loop and can ruin her day. It can take a long time for her to be comfortable with new people and each year before the first day of school, she wants to know what class she’s in, needs to meet the teacher and see where she’s going to sit.  She doesn’t like change at all. She’s VERY bright and wants to always get 100% on every assignment. She takes a long time to do her writing and has a very hard time making a “rough draft,” because she wants it to be a final draft the first time she writes. She gets migraine headaches due to stress that she puts upon herself and can’t understand why anyone would ever break a rule.

My husband is Green/Blue and I’m a VERY high Orange.  It’s a fun household with much respect and appreciation for each other. M.W.

What Do We Want to “Make” Others Be Or Do?

June 1st, 2008

It was just before six A.M. and I was trapped in a downtown hotel room without a coffee maker. Unfortunately, my policy is “no coffee – no workee!”

A few blocks down the street, I was fourth in line at a coffee shop, but I didn’t know I would still have some things to learn about how to order from the only high Gold clerk on shift. A single lady two ahead of me ordered three plain bagels to go. A few minutes later, the clerk reminded her that they were being toasted. But the customer just wanted them to go. “Well, you have to tell me that next time. We ALWAYS toast them.” The next customer asked about something he didn’t see on the shelf. “No, you have to come back after 10 A.M. I’m by myself here, you know.” That comment discouraged him altogether.

The high Blue lady just ahead of me didn’t fare any better, even though she seemed quite agreeable when being told “you’ll have to just wait a minute, I HAVE TO wipe down the counters first.” It did give her a chance to turn around and chat with me.

How did I make out? Well, my two banana nut muffins turned into something I didn’t recognize. When I asked to have them changed, the comment to me was, “you’ll have to speak up next time, I can’t hear you with the noise back here.” Good to remember – if there is a next time…

A funny story? Certainly. But as I was enjoying my coffee and muffins, I couldn’t help but wonder how often all of our Colors want to re-train or educate people to do things “our” way. Faster, slower, more paperwork, better organized, softer on people, better researched, with more flexibility, staying on track longer, shorter or better, or any number of ways. Which do you do, even without realizing it?

After all, without the tools of Colors, people only see, hear and judge our words and actions, and not our intentions.

Any Job For Any Color…But…

March 1st, 2008

At a recent seminar, a teenager shared that he wanted to become a pilot – like the movie Top Gun. Great – but there’s a big difference between a test pilot and a commercial pilot. Just like any Color can become a lawyer, but in vastly different specialties, there’s a big difference between these two types of pilots.

The purpose of a test pilot is to push the envelope until something goes wrong. Yet a commercial pilots’ main job is to worry about what could go wrong. That’s the reason they have massive checklists, fixed routines, an extensive walk-around, tons of policy manuals and time-tested, fixed procedures that are very much risk-averse. That’s a natural fit for a high Gold, and quite the opposite of an Orange test pilot whose job it is to find or create flaws and potential problems.

Yes, any Color can do any job, but if I’m boarding a flight and it’s an Orange pilot, well – let’s just say hopefully the co-pilot is high Gold… And just because someone can do a great job in their low Colors doesn’t mean it’s their passion, purpose or love. It doesn’t mean they find the job easy or a natural and comfortable fit for their personality, or that they’ll last.

As we discussed in a newsletter last year, many studies have shown that less than 20 percent of people who have a college or university degree are still in that field five years later. THAT has a lot to do with understanding their Colors BEFORE they enter college or university, before they become buried in student debt or become disillusioned and start to look for their real purpose and passion.

A Three-Year Old and the Only Gold In the Family

October 1st, 2007

Hi George: If you remember, I’m a high Orange married to a first Color Green. Our six year old is Orange/Green and our baby, who is three, is definitely Gold! This has been pretty prominent for quite a while – it just took learning about Colors to figure it out. Every toy in Liam’s room has a place, he keeps a few toys on show (which don’t get touched until he changes them) and his desk is empty unless he’s using it. The other day started out as any other. My son has a schedule for himself that doesn’t change unless I have something that I need to get done.

The other day, I had my sister’s kids for the morning. So my son Liam and his cousin were playing in his room all morning – they usually play in his brothers room (it’s OK to mess up his room – we get to play AND my room stays neat)!

When it was time for his cousin to leave, we had some other stuff to get done so I didn’t even check to see if they needed to clean up. Usually they don’t make a big mess so I wasn’t worried. We got into the truck and my son started in on me that my truck was “filthy” (his word) because there was some road spray dried on it. So to make him happy, we went through the car wash. (As a result I forgot to do about half the things on my Orange sort-of to-do list).

That night, I walked into his room and it was as messy as his brothers! Every toy, book and crayon was on the floor. I told him his room was very messy and he’d have to clean it in the morning as I cleared a path to his bed (I probably shouldn’t have said it, I didn’t want him to feel bad about it – but it just came out).

About 20 minutes after putting him to bed – we heard what we thought was playing in his room – which isn’t like him to play after the lights go out. My husband put him back to bed, but this happened about three times before he actually went to sleep. The next morning when I went into his room, it was spotless. Everything was back in its place! A little while later my son came to me and told me that he was sorry he wasn’t sleeping last night, but it “bugged him” that his room was messy.

This happens at school also. The one activity for his playschool the other day was to cut out a paper star. Everyone in his class cut the paper into a million little pieces and went on to something else. Liam’s actually looked like a star – but he was still upset that he went off the lines. When he colors, it’s the same thing!

Of course, we don’t mess with his schedule too much, if we can avoid it. Before the last school break my husband was already on vacation and he volunteered to take the boys to school. Well I guess Daddy didn’t do things “right” because his whole day was a little off, and after that he was still quite agitated when I picked him up.

His teacher, and other people that know him, tell me he’s quite advanced for his age. He’s got a fantastic vocabulary, he watches his big brother when he’s doing his kindergarten homework and like a sponge he’s picking it all up. In school he listens, behaves and participates in class. But I think it’s because he’s so Gold that he’s different from most the other kids his age.

Since taking the Colors course, we definitely parent differently. The kids have different punishments now, and the way we interact with them has grown a lot! Melody Wilson