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In Defense of Orange Women

August 27th, 2016

Ok, they really don’t need defending. Maybe the heading should read: Orange women aren’t rude, the B word, or pushy – but they can be horribly misunderstood, and that’s when people can jump into judgments and labels. That’s especially true for Orange/Green or (the very rare) Orange/Gold women. Orange/Blue women, depending on how close their two Colors, can seem a lot ‘softer’ when their Blue intuition softens their Orangeness.

They’re not mean: Yes, they can be sarcastic and really direct. It’s because they’re playful and want to bond, not because they’re mean. It’s humor, and not rudeness!

They’re not too blunt: Sorry, they won’t always “go along to get along.” Orange women will risk tension if they smell b.s., feels disrespected, or someone is trying to take away their freedom. They can be blunt to avoid drama, not to cause it. The alternative would be to hold in their feelings and bottle them up until they explode. That won’t happen with Orange women – or any Orange. And you get another big bonus from them: An hour later, when an argument is over, they won’t hold a grudge…or even remember it.

They’re not insensitive: If you’re looking for warm and fuzzy from them, good luck. They’ve had to go through a lot of bull in life. That hard-seeming exterior is mostly an act, and their humor is used to either hide a whole lot of their pain (never let them see you sweat), or used to diffuse an emotional situation. They’re not making fun of you, they’re doing their best to lighten the mood and to cheer you up. It’s either that, or cry with you, and that’s not going to happen – sorry. Under that tough seeming exterior, most Orange women are actually very sensitive and affectionate.

They’re not controlling: Large numbers of Orange women are in leadership positions and they (like every other Color) make great bosses. They don’t micromanage or babysit you – go do it – I’m busy with other stuff and the next challenge. When there’s a problem they want to solve it. Their passion and quick decision making can also be misinterpreted as controlling. You’re not hearing arrogance, you’re hearing passion and confidence. Their foot is always on the gas pedal. Just be bright, be brief, be gone!

Can We Be Orange Without the Score To Prove It?

March 1st, 2008

“Hi George: I am high Green/Gold AND people have often pointed out that I seem to be very Orange. How could that be? After everything is taken care of properly, I can relax and be silly – but how can I be “high” Orange but not like the verbal, disorganized and late parts?

I can laugh, but for a lot of years, during difficult times, I don’t remember laughing.  As a matter of fact, that is one reason that I married my husband – I noticed that I was laughing around him. So, what do you think? I do love me and think that I am pretty well rounded.”

Hello Green/Gold buddy: If you’re looking for definitive answers – you’re out of luck, because Colors isn’t a math thing, or an exact science. It sounds like you’re confused, when you should be happy, instead. Are you wondering if you HAVE to be a certain way because your score has defined you? Are you kidding? You’re all four Colors, whether that’s by score or behavior. After all, there’s a time and a place for everything, isn’t there?

You’re not “losing” your Green or Gold, and maybe the Orange isn’t and won’t be reflected in your score, but there’s a lot of ways to be Orange. Just like there are many ways to be Blue without having that as your highest score (that was a recent newsletter story: You don’t have to be Blue to be nice). If you can embrace and grow your “orangeness” you’re well on the way!

Right now, your fun is “earned” after the work is done, as is the case for Golds. You’ve learned to laugh again, not to take things so seriously, or to worry about everything. Pick your spots, ease up on the hundreds of rules you have, know when perfect is important, and when “good enough” really is good enough. Remember that there are four different definitions of organized and that “whatever” sometimes is a great answer the times you get so worked up about silly stuff in the big picture of life.

You’ve had a huge Orange deficiency for years – it’s great that you’re “back” and make sure your husband gets the recognition and rewards for helping you with that!

Oranges are always looking for a few good people to join them! The tools of Colors are like a buffet. You don’t have to take everything – you pick what you want! That’s how we grow, become coachable and learn. But your e-mail lists the three likely Orange traits out of context and not always accurate. It’d be nice if your Green could re-think the labeling of Oranges, and your Gold could take them off the Orange judgment list.

The Colors of Santa?

December 1st, 2007

His Green plans all year round, creates efficiencies and makes sure to learn from last year, since there’s no room for error when you’re working one long night where everything is on the line and HAS to go perfectly.

His Gold makes a list, OK many lists, checks them twice (at least) and plans the most efficient route. Plus, Santa is NEVER late, sick or misses a year. THAT is not an option – ever.

His Blue LOVES kids and everyone. He always has time to really listen to them and makes sure each of them feels included and gets to experience the special feeling of Christmas. Santa just wishes he could see the faces of kids when they do get to open that special present…

His Orange is hugely positive. He’s always laughing (HO HO HO!) and is very flexible, since kids have been known to change their minds about the fifty gifts they really really have to have this year. And Santa’s not really that strict with the naughty or nice thing, if the truth were known…who can remember stuff from February…oh – and his high Orange is very generous!

What Does Your Color Do In A Traffic Tie-Up?

October 1st, 2007

Hi George: I was sitting in traffic the other week as my 30 Gold score was patiently waiting my turn to get past an accident. At that point, my high Green started to wonder about the personalities of the other drivers around me, and how their Colors determined what to do.

The Golds were likely in the lane furthest away from the wreck, because you’re supposed to move away from an accident, and they were in the lane they needed to be in, planning to make their exit 20 miles away. They were irritated that some people weren’t moving to the open lane, since there was a sign five miles back notifying everyone that there was an accident in the far left lane.

The Blues were probably in the next lane over so that they could help people move over away from the accident, but also in order to help people get on and off the exits. They were also in this lane so they see the wreck to make sure no one was hurt, needing help and just wondering if everyone was OK. They had already dialed 911 on their cell and were waiting to press the “send” button in case they felt that help was needed.

Perhaps the Greens were in the lane next to the accident in order to evaluate how many cars were in the wreck, how it happened and whose fault it was – all in an effort to at least learn something from this.

It’s likely that the Orange drivers were in the accident lane until they just HAVE to move over. After all, until then, it was the fastest moving lane. Of course, at the last minute they now have to change lanes immediately and start inching forward without really waiting for someone to let them into the bumper to bumper traffic. Or perhaps they would be asked to stop and help direct traffic or something important?

It sure made waiting in traffic more fun. But I also had some questions: Would an Orange just make another lane on the shoulder to short-cut the traffic, because they’re already late? Would they latch onto the next cars’ bumper to avoid letting anyone in because it would delay them an extra three seconds?

Would us Gold not let anyone in when we get close, because they should have merged way back when they knew they’d have to move into our lane?

Would a Blue be more likely to let you merge once you’ve made eye contact and (in a way) connect with them?

In this long delay, shouldn’t someone survey the high Greens as to how they could better handle these types of congestion? Isn’t that what they’re thinking about at the time? Or is it more of a focus on looking around wondering how stupid some other drivers really are?

J.W. Kansas City

Matching Talents to Tasks

July 1st, 2007

One of the greatest examples of being able to pull this off is Donald Trump. Surely, Trump is one of the highest Orange personalities anywhere. Yet it appears clear that every other person that he has had on the show, from George to (formerly) Caroline, is high Gold. And there hasn’t been a season of The Apprentice when he’s hired anyone but a high Gold!

Trump knows his strengths are promotion, quick decisions, negotiating and making the big deals. He likely also recognizes that his weakness (or certainly the least fun part of his day) is the monitoring part of the job. The supervision, details, specifics, and all those traits Golds love and are very good at, are just not something which motivates Trump, or most successful high Orange. But he trusts the judgments and decisions of those who work for him.

To paraphrase one of Trumps sayings: He wants to surround himself with managers who can get him up-to-date in two minutes or less and are accountable for their actions. And in a recent letter I received from Trump, he does admit that he’s read lots of material on Carl Jung, and is well familiar with personality types!

Understanding Colors can show very well what talents and strengths someone may have, but often it’s harder for the person him or herself to see. Often, factors ranging from control to ego, negativity or not acknowledging real talents do get in the way.

One of the best ways to keep your high Orange staff, students or clients interested in to make sure you show a sense of humor. Another easy way is to make sure something is happening hands-on, or that the high Orange is involved in whatever you’re teaching, talking about or selling.

Feeling it, touching it, living it are three great ways to keep their attention and interest. It also helps to keep things moving without getting into a lot of theory and technical stuff. They’re buying into the sizzle as much as the steak. “Is this fun, will this make me money, can I use it tomorrow, can I win at this, is this practical?” are some of the Orange filters you need to meet in order to keep them in the game, on your team, in the classroom or interested in what you’re selling.