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Gold Behaviors or Gold First Color?

January 8th, 2015

65% of North Americans aren’t first Color Gold. Yet, somehow they still manage to get stuff done on time, pay their bills, organize their stuff, and show up on time and prepared. I know that’s hard to believe at times for the 35% of people who are Gold…and spend a lot of time and energy trying to convert the rest of the world…

But everybody is a little Gold…in many ways…in many situations. It may be by necessity, the influence of their parents, their career, the choice to be careful with their money, or whatever the reason or particular areas of their life. Some Gold behaviors manifest themselves in every person. I don’t know if the people below are first Color Gold – I don’t know enough about them. But they sure have some Gold tendencies:
Paul McCartney has always been very frugal with his money. According to his daughter he insisted she attend an in-state college because of the much lower tuition cost.

Kourtney Kardashian is a coupon addict. She takes her entire binder of coupons along whenever she goes shopping.

Vince Kartheiser (Mad Men) and his fiancé, Gilmore Girls’ Alexis Bledel still choose to live in a tiny one bedroom apartment.

After winning over $2 million in the Ontario lottery, the winner shared “I went over to Niagara Falls, NY. I got a gallon of milk for a buck! That, for me, was exiting! I grabbed five or six of them.”

Jennifer Lawrence, long after having been paid $10 million to star in Hunger Games II shared that “…most of the time I end up staying at the Days Inn…” And she recently confessed that she found it hard to pay $400 for a shirt, and that her father yelled at her for wasting that kind of money.

Prince William and Kate Middleton actually do their own grocery shopping and Middleton steadfastly refuses to use a stylist.

George Clooney didn’t bargain shop for his recent $1.8 million wedding, but fellow actors Dax Shephard & Kristen Bell spent $142 for a courthouse wedding.

Mr. Clean Messes Up

September 2nd, 2014

I don’t actually know this person’s first name – it’s just the nickname I gave him. He works with a relative who started sharing Mr. Clean’s self-destruct actions within a month of being hired.

The second weekend of his contract Mr. Clean spent hours cleaning the work areas of all the permanent senior staff. He not only threw stuff out and rearranged everything, but also left them a note of how they ought to keep their work areas cleaner and neater. That was followed by a letter to his boss on how he has to deal with ‘messy pigs,’ and how his boss really ought to run the department better and more efficiently. Last week he put away all the tools and cleaned up…half way through the job…

His previous position was as a bar manager. But, as he shared with my relative, he was fired. To this day he still doesn’t understand why. Waitresses were totally disorganized and messy, and he had to spend all his time cleaning, organizing after them, and riding their a&* …

There are lots more stories as Mr. Clean continues to mess up and to self-destruct. Want to bet whether his contract will be renewed in a few months? I didn’t think so…
Your first Color is how you want the world to function. But you need to constantly remind yourself that others don’t share that view. Your strengths are those of your Color. But take them a bit too far in wanting to bring the world around to your way of life and you’ll be in real trouble on any team, as a leader, and in your relationship.

When you’re at Wendy’s you can’t order a Big Mac: What one specific thing in your first Colors are you trying to change in others? You may not see it, or even want to acknowledge it, but when you do, all your relationships will improve. Ask someone you trust: If they care enough to share (and know Colors), they’ll tell you. But care enough to ask and to want to know in the first place! (This is an extended section in the Advanced Colors seminar!)

Golds Need Advice and Feedback

April 7th, 2014

Here are a few questions from Golds at seminars or by email. But rather than me answering them, since I’m a fellow Gold member, how about YOU click the comment button and tell them. Your name and email will never show, and it’s OK to be supportive, sympathetic, funny, or sarcastic:

-I have cord phobia. I can’t stand cable lines, extension cords, etc. that aren’t properly tucked away and out of sight. Am I the only person with this phobia?

-My kitchen counter pretty much needs to be empty, other than the coffee maker and toaster. Even the microwave is out of sight and I love the neat look when there’s nothing cluttering up the kitchen. Is that weird?

-I’ve spent – no – invested in a bunch of shoe organizers…and there are a fair number of shoes…please tell me I’m not the only Gold female!

-I get kind of cranky when others at work use my desk or borrow my stuff. Is it wrong that I’m pretty territorial?

-Is it OK for me to organize the kitchen junk drawer every few months, or is that going one step too far in the direction of OCD?

A Great Gold Quote

June 4th, 2009

The Edmonton Journal business writer Gary Lamphier had a great quote this morning that is worth sharing. His column was about lists, such as the Fortune 500, best business schools, etc.

But his column will certainly have bonded him with the Golds of the world. I bet it was without knowing, but Golds (and Greens), are his most likely readers, in any event.

The column started with: I have a confession to make: I’m an addict. I’ve got a craving I can’t shake. I’m hooked on lists. Lists satisfy my cravings for order. I admire their finality. Lists make a messy world tidy.

On behalf of all the Golds in the world, Mr. Lamphier: You bet!

A Great E-Mail Question

March 1st, 2009

Hi George: Can you share some information on how we can adjust our lives using our insights of Colors? I am a Gold/Blue, a workaholic, and would like to learn strategies to learn how to place importance on ME and to set some healthy boundaries. Life is slipping by and I want to smell the roses, but find it hard to do. M.

Hey M: As you described so correctly, our second Color matters a lot! You’re another Gold workaholic and can’t say no. Gee – the former is totally Gold and the latter is a real challenge (doubly so) for most Gold/Blues. Blues want to be loved and included so they don’t say no, and Golds do things out of a sense of duty and responsibility.

But when the Gold “I have to do it,” or your Blue “they need me,” burns the candle at both ends it does NOT make you a brighter light. It just burns you out faster. For Golds, the more stress they have and the less “perfect” life is going, the more they work, thinking that doing “more” will make it better. Besides, it’s a great place to “hide” from life and facing other issues. It’s a safe place to be, they’re good at it, it’s a world Golds can control and it makes them invaluable…just before burning out, as they’re stressed to the max, snaps, gets sick, hardens the tone of their voice, become less flexible and more rigid.

So what’s really going on that you’re hiding from, avoiding or not wanting to change? What would happen if you said no and set some gentle boundaries? What do you feel you’d lose vs. what would you gain? Until the gain is bigger than the perceived loss, you won’t move. The pain has to be big enough to choose to act.

Isn’t part of the workaholic issue that the moment you get out the door you still have a to-do list managing your life? Can you have an entire day of nothing planned without feeling you’re being irresponsible? Can you take your great organizational skills and pass the buck without feeling you’re slouching off without feeling nobody else could do it, from filing at work to a cleaning person at home? And to start, can you change your stinkin thinkin from ways it can’t be done, changed or improved to actually thinking of how it IS possible and you deserve better? Are you worth it?

Let’s Make A Deal

May 1st, 2008

For Golds, being organized and having their world neat and tidy is not an option, but an important part of allowing them to relax and function. But lots of e-mails I receive are on the effects neat and organized (or not) can have on relationships.

 

A recent one was from a lady who just starts cleaning up her sisters’ house when she goes to visit. Golds value doing acts of service and it’s a way she is showing her sister that she loves her. But her sister doesn’t see it that way. It has become clear that she views it as interference. She is very resentful and feels quite judged when a visit isn’t a visit, but almost like the TV show Clean Sweep.

 

The last e-mail was even stronger. It was from a lady (let’s call her Kim), whose mother will no longer visit her, or her grandkids, because she believes Kim’s home is way too messy. Ouch! Yes, Kim has a Gold score close to zero, but also has two young kids and a full-time job. But whatever the reason, her Gold mother feels so uncomfortable at her place that she has stopped visiting.

 

Is drawing that line in the sand from a high Gold silly, stupid, overreacting or justified? Everyone’s answer will be different, but the need to have things neat and organized is as critical to Golds as some alone time for Greens, connecting with people for Blues, and fun and freedom for Oranges. Golds cannot relax or focus in chaos or a mess, whether that’s at home, work or anywhere else. So perhaps how you answer that question will give you some insights into how well you practice the power of Colors.

 

We don’t get to pick our family members. But everything in life is “let’s make a deal” to do more of what works and less of what doesn’t. Will some of these questions give you a different way of looking at these types of conflicts?

 

  • Does the other person have a point, or are they stuck in their judgments and being unreasonable?
  • Is cleaning up a little worth the effort to honor that person and have them visit?
  • When a Gold family member cleans up a little, do you know they’re showing you (not saying) that they love you and care about you? AND that it makes them feel valuable to be helping?
  • Is it an issue of wanting to be right instead of happy, with either you or the other person?
  • Can you visit her with the kids, instead of creating a fight when she comes over?
  • Do you know how happy a high Gold would be if you asked for help? But how would you feel?
  • With your knowledge of Colors, and your low Gold, are you using these tools to strengthen your relationships with other Colors, or just using it to “define” others?

Better yet, can you lend your family member a copy of the Colorful Personalities book to give him or her lots of insights into your Color’s strengths and joys versus the focus on the negatives and judgments? Family is everything. Most of us would readily spend $2,000 to grow all of our family relationships, wouldn’t we? Yet a $20 investment in the Colors book accomplishes most of that pretty easily.