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Can We Be Orange Without the Score to Prove It?

November 11th, 2018

Hi George: I am high Green/Gold AND people have often pointed out that I seem to be very Orange. How could that be? After everything is taken care of properly, I can relax and be silly – but how can I be “high” Orange but not verbal and disorganized?

I can laugh, but for a lot of years, during difficult times, I don’t remember laughing.  As a matter of fact, that is one reason that I married my husband – I noticed that I was laughing around him. So, what do you think? I do love me and think that I am pretty well rounded.”

Hello Green/Gold buddy: If you’re looking for definitive answers – you’re out of luck, because Colors isn’t a math thing, or an exact science. It sounds like you’re confused, when you should be happy, instead. Are you wondering if you HAVE to be a certain way because your score has defined you? Are you kidding? You’re all four Colors, whether that’s by score or behavior. After all, there’s a time and a place for everything, isn’t there? Plus, our behaviors are not our Colors.

You’re not “losing” your Green or Gold, and maybe the Orange isn’t and won’t be reflected in your score, but there’s a lot of ways to be Orange. Just like there are lots of ways to show your blue caring and compassion. If you can embrace and grow your “orangeness” you’re well on the way!

Right now, your fun is “earned” after the work is done, as is the case for Golds. You’ve learned to laugh again, not to take things so seriously, or to worry about everything. Pick your spots, ease up on the hundreds of rules you have, know when perfect is important, and when “good enough” really is good enough. Remember that there are four different definitions of organized and that “whatever” sometimes is a great answer the times you get so worked up about silly stuff in the big picture of life.

You’ve had a huge Orange deficiency for years – it’s great that you’re “back” and make sure your husband gets the recognition and rewards for helping you with that!

Oranges are always looking for a few good people to join them! The tools of Colors are like a buffet. You don’t have to take everything – you pick what you want! That’s how we grow, become coachable and learn. I would also be nice if your Green could re-think the labeling of Oranges, and your Gold could take them off the Orange judgment list.

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