What’s In It for Your Color?

October 2nd, 2017

For each of our Colors, sports, games, get-togethers or hobbies often have a very different motivator. It might be the same activity, but we often do it for very different reasons and with a very different agenda, or mindset from other Colors. Here are three examples, see if you can identify or connect with some of the reasons:

Gardening:

  • Everything in neat rows – no weeds!
  • Ah – the chance to get away from people and just stay out here in the garden
  • Wildflowers! Definitely. No maintenance and I hope it rains because I’ll never remember to water them regularly.
  • A chance to create something beautiful and alive – right here in my garden.

Playing Monopoly:

Who organizes and plans the night

Who brings the snacks and drinks

Who acts as banker

Who watches that nobody cheats

Who actually knows and reads the rules

Who wants it at their house so they can show off their party room & 4K TV?

Who wants to bring a friend

Who wants to win no matter what it takes

Who just wants the game around just to play in between sharing stories

Going to a shooting range:

Who wants to know what to wear

Wants a silencer so the neighbors won’t be disturbed

Who goes: silencer? The noise is half the fun!

Who goes ready – fire – aim

Who just needs one bullet

Who wants to take the targets home and keep them in a file

Who is looking around for a machine gun instead

Who can (or wants to) take the gun apart and inspect it

Who wants to know if the rental is per bullet

Who, before leaving, thinks we should pick up all the shell casings

Who doesn’t want to shoot at a people silhouettes or a Bambi target

Do Men Only Like the Idea of Dating a Green Woman?

October 2nd, 2017

Generally, men like the idea of ‘dating up.’ That is, dating someone who’s more successful and intelligent than their (already really wonderful) self. But when the opportunity presents itself…they often back away. A study on speed dating found that men thought intelligence was quite appealing, unless they perceived the woman to be smarter than themselves.

Researchers from three universities recently took these experiments further and deeper. In the preliminary phase, 86% of men said they would feel comfortable dating someone smarter than themselves. Then they tested the claim.

The undergraduate students were given a hypothetical scenario about a woman who scored better on an intelligence test than they did. Then they asked how romantically desirable that woman seemed. In the second test, they were given an intelligence test and asked if they’d like to meet the woman down the hall who had either scored better or worse on the test. In both studies, the men were interested in meeting her and even dating.

In a further test, they were in the room with the woman and their test scores were read aloud. Then the men were asked to move their chairs across from the woman and to do a short survey on how attractive and desirable they found the woman to be. In the survey, and measuring the distance between their chairs, researchers found that reality is a little different. When the woman had scored higher on the intelligence test, the men’s survey showed they felt the woman was less attractive, and the distance between their chairs was much greater than those who were ‘matched’ with a woman who had scored lower on the test.

Along with three other tests, researchers found that men were less likely to date and interact with a smarter woman when she was face to face with them. Yet, if she was ‘psychologically distant’ (in the next room for the experiments) there wasn’t any difference in their desire to meet and date no matter what their intelligence score.

It’s not just Green women who are intelligent, but it certainly isn’t easy being a Green single female…

All Time Favorite Gold Movies?

October 2nd, 2017

A Myers-Briggs site recently listed some of the all time favorite movies for Gold. But you have to decide if some of them are your favorites. Click the comment and vote. Golds – what’s missing – what should be off the list?

Lord of the Rings: An epic journey, relentless struggle between good and evil, and selflessness of the good-guy characters

Star Wars: Another struggle between good and evil, a clear hero and villains

Borne series: Twists and turns, lots of moral and ethics issues, doing what’s right (OK, I have seen all of these and agree…)

Pride and Prejudice: Golds enjoy movies that take them back to a different time, ballrooms, a more eloquent time, and romantic without going over the top

Star Trek: Maybe it’s just for Gold/Greens or Green/Golds…many Typologists think Spock is a Green/Gold…it’s a make you think movie that’s more about science than space

Oceans 11: What’s not to love about a movie with the perfect plan that’s perfectly constructed and executed?

Braveheart: The battle of good versus evil in the face of adversity

Dead Poets Society: The story of the individual fighting for success and inspiration while trying not to disappoint parents…and a great comedic actor

The Harry Potter series: An unforgettable fantasy that features the battle between good and evil in the wizarding and muggle worlds. Harry Potter and his friends consistently show selflessness, bravery, courage, and a strong sense of inner morality.

The Fugitive: Dr. Kimble’s unwillingness to give up or to give in to despair against insurmountable odds. Golds can cheer for a man with his quiet resolve and integrity.

What Restaurant Chain Fits Your Color? Part III

August 28th, 2017

Blues: In-N-Out Burger (sadly for Canadians, it’s U.S. based only, but well worth finding)

People see you as being very communicative. But, to be honest, you’re also rather introverted, especially if you’re Blue/Gold or that rare Blue/Green. Because your personality is kind of a dichotomy in itself, this half-wrapped hamburger is kind of like you. It tastes great at first bite, but to fully enjoy the burger, you need to be patient. Once people can digest all you have to give, they’ll (likely) get to enjoy what you hide.

But Golds should come with you, too! One of the cleanest food establishments you’ll see – they even cruise the parking lot every half hour to clean up their neighborhood. The menu has around 10 items – that’s it. Like the life of Golds, it’s not a cluttered menu, nothing confusing, very streamlined, incredibly well-run process, organized ordering to let you just get the #1, 2, or 3. And watch a lot of the staff work and interact. I’d bet they hire a ton of Gold teens…

Greens: Chipotle

Life for you is all about being able to work with innovative possibilities and variables. In the Chipotle land of guac, everything is really about that: Being one step ahead of the curve, putting everything together, offering innovative solutions to everyone’s problems (food), and providing options and various combinations. The last customer may have invented a bowl of their own sofritas and sour cream, but you can absolutely invent something better by adding this or that…The freedom to experiment and create is endless.

Orange: Cheesecake Factory: Your ideas are so large, and you have so many that it’s hard to finish any one task. You’re smart, gregarious, and creative. But you pile on so many things that it’s hard to finish what you start. So why the Cheesecake Factory?  Because the portions are pretty large, and it’s likely you won’t get to half the plate there as well…    Adapted from Sophia Borghese, Ohio University MBTI story

Colors Tools for Christians Book: Paying It Forward

August 28th, 2017

Good afternoon George: We met at a one of your workshops quite a few years ago, and I was about to enter seminary then, and you graciously gave me a copy of your Colors Tools for the Christian book.

On Friday I began a couples’ retreat that I was hosting through our congregation.  And in that retreat I used that book as a tool to teach the couples about the joys of learning about our unique colors and how that shapes our experiences of relationships and Church and God.  Some of it just affirmed what they already knew about each other (all the couples had been married at least 10 years).  But it got really powerful when I divided them up to go through the color-oriented Bible verses you provide in the book.  For then they were quickly able to see which ones fit naturally for them, and which ones didn’t fit so naturally.  Earlier in the retreat they had been very good at affirming each other’s uniqueness.  But here as they realized some of their own challenges and how that affected their relationships, there were some light bulbs coming on as they realized that they were inadvertently pushing people away, or making them feel bad, or whatever.  I tried to help each couple see the opportunity to grow – either in respect for the differences or in appreciation of the different strengths each had.  That seemed to be a touching moment for them as they realized the room they both had to grow.

Each individual seemed to come away from the retreat with a new-found respect and appreciation for where his/her spouse and kids, and other family members were coming from and where he/she could grow to be more sensitive to our differences.

So thank-you for your work and for the resources you’ve created.  They continue to touch the lives of lots of people! Warmly, Rev. D.D.

A Blue Threw Me Under the Bus

August 28th, 2017

Earlier this year, I went on a Panama Canal cruise with a Blue relative. One night at dinner in the French restaurant we ordered our usual escargot as an appetizer. After the first bite, I realized mine weren’t hot at all. That’s when I made my big mistake:

The maître de was at our table too quickly to say hello, and to ask how they were. I didn’t have a chance to ask my relative how his were, first. With the maître de standing right there, I had no choice but to tell him. He looked at my relative and naturally asked about his order. “Mine are fine, thanks” was his response. That elicited a confused look as he stated that that was strange since they were fired together.

Now I needed to make sure he didn’t think I was wrong. “Put your finger in them – they’re not hot – honest”…he didn’t. Was he questioning me? I know he didn’t think I was trying to avoid paying as it was a complementary dinner. Of course, he took them away with an apology, but I still had a strong feeling of guilt for some reason.

For the next two days, we saw this maître de working in some of the other ship’s restaurants and my relative chatted with him almost every time. Me? I got the polite smile but not the chit chat…

Three days later, we’re heading back to the same restaurant. On the way there, my relative announces: “I’m not having the escargot today, they were cold last time.” WHAT??? NOW YOU SAY SOMETHING?

It took a few seconds of feeling vindicated but confused before I realize what happened. At the time, in the moment, it was more important for a Blue to be nice, than to make waves. The relationship with me was ‘safe,’ but he didn’t know the maître de, and avoiding any conflict or hard feelings was more of a priority at the time.

Whether it’s with close friends, relatives, in a meeting at work, or a relationship, Blues avoid conflict at all cost. It’s not a planned-out conscious choice that Blues make. It’s just the knowledge that one relationship is safe while the other person doesn’t ‘have’ to like them. That applies to Blue kids telling you what happened in class while the teacher has no clue of the issues, just as much as a Blue partner laying all the work troubles on you at home while never saying a thing in the office.